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this is how I want to touch you

This is how it looks this morning: new bumps on my hand where the stitches used to be, bright and cleansing tea steeping, a quiet girl resting inside a sleepy woman. I’m doing everything but focusing on this blog this morning — today is that day: a day for embodied discombobulation with no blame, shame or guilt.


Got to do a very fun, quick-n-dirty erotic letter writing class last night (right before Rain DeGrey did her Strap-On demo class!), thanks to to the folks at Femina Potens and Mission Control! We spent a few minutes talking about why anyone might write a sexy letter:

  • to express things that are hard to say face to face
  • to seduce and/or keep an erotic connection with someone far-away (or close!)
  • to describe your desires or fantasies
  • to seduce yourself (remembering that writing itself, and writing about sex and desire in particular, can be a powerful and fun erotic, embodied experience!)
  • (why else?)

We had time for a couple of short writes and a few folks shared their work with the room — serious, intense, desiring, and funny pieces! We had a great breadth of tone represented, even though we only had time for a few people to read. I liked getting to focus on just one “form” of writing — the letter. The epistle has a great erotic tradition, and we have so many ways to participate in this tradition now: via email or blog-broadsides, text or twitter or facebook, or even, yes, the old school piece of scented paper, kissed with ink and wetted/sealed into an envelope. Erotic communications are more easily made public now, made available to more than the one intended recipient; we can seduce the world in 140 characters.

What would you write if you were writing a letter of desire to yourself? To your secret crush? To your beloved? To a community? If you began with the phrase, “This is how I want to touch you…” or “This is how I want you to touch me…” — what flows after that?

Thank you for the words that live out in public, for the words that live and are nurtured thick and powerful in your heart.

Upcoming events!

Feb is turning out to be a busy month around these parts! Come on down for one or more of these events in San Francisco:

Feb 15: Open Mic at the Exiles!
Keep that V-day energy moving! Gina De Vries and I will be the features at this first ever kinky and erotic open mic sponsored by the Exiles! Open to all Exiles members and guests. 5 min per performer, signup at 7:30, program begins at 8. For more info, visit The Exiles online (http://www.theexiles.org/).

Feb 16: Philosophy/Art Salon: What is Erotic?
Join us for a Socratic dialogue on the question: What makes for erotic art? Philosopher-at-Large Rita Alfonso, Ph.D., will be joined by erotic Writer Jen Cross and visual artist Dorian Katz for a brief show-and-tell followed by philosophical discussion. At Femina Potens, 2199 Market St. at Sanchez, SF. Admission is $10-$25 sliding scale. (www.feminiapotens.org)

Feb 27: Monthly Erotic Reading Circle at the Center for Sex and Culture, 1519 Mission Street, Suite 1, SF. Admission $1-5, no one turned away. (www.centerforsexandculture.org)

March 8: New Erotica Reading at the Center for Sex and Culture.
Join recent and veteran Declaring Our Erotic writers as they share their brave, blistering and brilliant new writing! More details to come: watch this space!

April 3-April 20: Jen joins the Body Heat: Femme Porn Tour (image heavy/prob. not work safe) as we read and riot across these peculiarly united states. Opening stop: Thursday, April 3 at the Center for Sex and Culture. Next stop: San Diego — warn your friends! We’re coming to their town…

And then, of course, the Spring workshops get started!

More info about these events coming soon!