Today is National Coming Out Day — one day a year that celebrates the endless, sometimes joyous, sometimes boring, sometimes devastating process of coming out as queer, as gay or lesbian or bisexual, as trans* or genderqueer, as someone other than the assumed and accepted straight, gender-normative persons we tell ourselves we are supposed to be.
So, happy Coming Out Day!
The idea, once upon a time, was that this would be a day when we would support one another coming out to someone new — maybe we weren’t out yet to our parents, or to our grandparents, or to others in our extended family. Maybe we hadn’t yet come out to our dearest friends from high school or college. Maybe we weren’t out yet at work. Maybe we hadn’t told housemates or classmates. Maybe we haven’t yet actually come out to ourselves.
(some explicit language about sexual trauma in this post; just be easy with you today.)
Good morning! Here’s the candle and this new light and a slow waking. Here’s a day of new beginnings — here’s a day of breathing in with fear and exhaling with fear and watching how even this is a place I want to be able to unfurl into.
What’s got a strong heartbeat in you this morning?
Today is National Coming Out Day, intended to be a day when LGBTQ folks can stand in solidarity in their openness about their lives: Yes, we’re here, we’re queer, and you already love us. It’s a day to honor those in our lives who don’t already know that they love (or know, or care about, or work with, or are friends with) someone lesbian or bisexual or trans or gay or queer by offering them that information.
Last night, just before bed, while working on a grant proposal, I spent about an hour with the self I was back in 1993 and 1994, transcribing that young person’s words from our old journals. She had plenty of coming out to do. Continue reading
Good morning good morning — is it Tuesday where you are? Here, it’s a Tuesday, quiet so far, dark. I’m having green tea with tulsi and mint, and there’s a candle lit in a tall jar — the flame is popping in the wax as air bubbles emerge, I think, and it feels like the flame is talking to me.
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Sent out the writing ourselves whole October newsletter yesterday — there are a whole lot of new writing opportunities coming up in the new year! We’re launching Bayview Writers, a general-topic writing workshop for Marin — women’s group on Tuesday mornings in Tiburon, and an open group on Wednesday evenings in San Rafael. Also coming in January: Dive Deep, an advanced workshop for folks who are ready to dive deep into a writing project. Please let me know if you’d like to learn more about any of the writing opportunities coming up!
Thanks to Keith Haring for so so much, including this logo...
Happy National Coming Out Day!
(Let me say that I’m sad that this now appears to be an HRC-sponsored production across the country — this post is not sponsored by the HRC.)