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The Body Heat Femme Porn Tour hits the West Coast, Feb 8-12!

We’re back on the West Coast, and coming to San Francisco, Ashland, Portland, Olympia and Seattle! Performing femmes include Kathleen Delaney-Adams, Alex Cafarelli, Al Schlong, The Lady Ms. Vagina Jenkins, and Jen Cross. This tour includes several opportunities to write with the femmes, and special guests at nearly every show! Come out and join us!
Body Heat: Femme Porn Tour is a national touring collective of fierce Queer Femme smut/erotic writers, authors, performers, poets, and dancers. Garnering such praise as “THE best Femme porn writers in the country,” the tour was founded in 2007 by Kathleen Delaney-Adams with the hope of supporting and promoting Queer Femme visibility and desire through their contributions to erotica, the sex industry, and the sex-positive movement. In addition to Kathleen, the Body Heat lineup features author Jen Cross, burlesque dancer The Lady Ms. Vagina Jenkins, drag king Al Schlong and singer/writer/performer Alex Cafarelli.

2013 West Coast Tour

February 8th
San Francisco, CA
Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street
San Francisco, CA 94103
[Between 9th and 10th Streets, on the corner of Grace Street]
Doors 7:30, show 8:00 SHARP
Tickets $15.00
******SPECIAL GUESTS SHAR REDNOUR and MICHELLE MEOW from Swirl Radio!!!!!!!******

February 9th
Ashland, OR
Smut and Erotic Workshop:
3:00-5:00pm @ the Ashland Public Library
open to all, new and curious writers and established writers both!!! Led by writing facilitator Jen Cross of Body Heat
Performance: at Southern Oregon University, 1250 Siskiyou Blvd Ashland, OR 97520 $10 at the door Start time 8:00pm
The room is “The Arena” and it is located on the ground level (basement) of the Stevenson Union (the student center). Here is a link to a map:http://www.sou.edu/su/
**special guest Ashlandian JULIE WEBER**
Workshop – $15.00
Show – $10.00
Workshop AND show combo – $20.00
TICKETS IN ADVANCE AT www.loveashland.com
– Hosted by Love Revolution
111 East Main Street
Ashland OR 97520

February 10th
Portland, OR
In Other Words
14 NE Killingsworth Street
Portland, OR 97211
Show is afternoon matinee at 4:00pm
Tickets $10.00

February 11th
Olympia, WA
Evergreen State College
afternoon Erotic Workshop for Survivors of Trauma – 3:00 – 5:00pm open to all – Led by writing facilitator Jen Cross of Body Heat followed by sizzlin’ evening performance @ 7:30
Tickets FREE for all students and public

February 12th
Seattle, WA
Center for Sex Positive Culture
1602 15th Avenue West
Seattle, WA 98119
Door 7:00, show 7:30
$10.00-$15.00 sliding scale

February 14th
show cancelled!!!!!!!

All locations are wheelchair accessible.

Performer Bios:

Body Heat Founder Kathleen Delaney-Adams is a Stone High Femme porn writer and spoken word performer. A National touring veteran, Kathleen is the founder and producer of BODY HEAT: Femme Porn Tour, now in it’s 6th touring year. A 1950’s housewife at heart, Kathleen’s current writing project is a Year of Cupcakes, found at http://www.belovedcupcake.blogspot.com/.
Her CD, “Stiletto,” is available at www.cdbaby.com.

Al Schlong sure is one sexy guy! Born of necessity, forged in the fires of the dirty dirty, radical as street sex, delicious as southern peach melting on the tongue. Al is one drag king not afraid to express his feminine side: cuff links, suspenders and bankers cuffs all make him leak a little pre-cum. Al Schlong is sleazy; he’s not the guy you bring home to momma; rather the one in the morning that made you feel like you’d stepped into a 70’s movie as the judgment-challenged heroine. Check out his Schlong on FB: www.facebook.com/aldirtysouth or Twitter: alschlong

Alex Cafarelli is a kinky genderqueer femme Jewish Witch based in Toronto. She debuted as a porn writer at age 10 with the short story Being Bisexual In One Day. Alex co-founded the Minneapolis-based performance group the Psycick Slutz and she performs with Sins Invalid, a San Francisco-based performance project on disability and sexuality. A professional gardener by day, she also teaches mindfulness and element-based magick with a feminist foundation in social and environmental justice. Find her on FB: www.facebook.com/AlexCafarelli

Jen Cross is a queer femme writer, workshop facilitator and performer whose work has appeared in a plethora of anthologies, including Women in Lust, The Healing Art of Writing 2010, Visible: A Femmethology (Vol. 1), Best Sex Writing 2008, Nobody Passes, Naughty Spanking Stories A-Z 2. Since 2002, Jen has facilitated sexuality and survivors writing workshops in the SF Bay Area and at colleges and organizations across the country. Visit her at writingourselveswhole.org.

For the past 10 years, The Lady Ms. Vagina Jenkins has been gracing stages across the world with her traditional burlesque. An ecdysiast exemplar, Vagina Jenkins style is reminiscent of classic glitz and glamour. Ms. Jenkins act defies audience expectations, wows them and leaves them wanting more. Be sure to check www.VaginaJenkins.com for Vagiant updates!

Shar Rednour’s show Love, Life & Sex on Swirl Radio features her smartest tips on dating, romance and long term relationships. As the Femmepress Shar, she wrote the LGBT’s femme “bible” The Femme’s Guide to the Universe which is newly updated and now an AUDIO book on Amazon! She has been a managing editor for On Our Backs Magazine and written for Playboy.com, Girlfriends Magazine, Good Vibrations Sexy Mama Magazine among others. She has been featured on HBO documentaries Real Sex and Pornucopia. She has been featured in award-winner Ken Swartz’s documentary “San Francisco: Sex and The City.” Shar Rednour’s erotic films have played in LGBT international film festivals worldwide.

all of our body can hold different parts of our stories

graffiti, wheat pasted maybe, of a young male deer beneath a green treeI got up extra early today to do my morning pages, before coming to the computer.  Maybe it will have been a good idea, but right now I’m tired and would like more sleep. Yesterday was a very quiet day — perfect. No time on the computer — 2 old movies (a Doris Day & a Katherine Hepburn) and 1 more recent, Hook. A day for baking, for reading in the sun, for cafe writing.

Two nights ago, when we got home from dinner with Alex after Body Empathy, there were at least two deer nested down back beneath the big tree directly in front of the carport. We tiptoed out of the car, lugging bags of stuff, materials, workshop business and food, and said hello to them and told them how pretty they were. They kept their eyes on us, ears up, watching, but didn’t move. The bigger one didn’t move, the mama maybe — the smaller, behind, she’d stood by the time we were done unloading. Yesterday afternoon I wandered back to where they’d been, wanted to see the outlines of bellies on the ground, in a pile of leaves maybe, but all I saw were the small hoofprints all around the back area where the giant pile of leaves used to be. Maybe they were snacking on new blackberry cane growth, or maybe there was something good in the neighbor’s compost pile. I knew they might come up to the house and push their heads to the tomato plant I’ve got that’s going crazy now, suddenly flowering and budding, growing tall and almost wild — I knew they might come up and get a taste, since F! has seen their footprints in my lettuce pots behind the fence! It’s ok, though. They can have some and can leave me some. I’ve heard their feet clacking on the sidewalk, those dark hooves striking sharp and simple, like it’s a normal sound, deerhooves in my ears. They won me over.


It was a beautiful Body Empathy workshop on Saturday, all of us risking that slow possibility of being in our bodies. We started off a little discombobulated, got to be imperfect, because no one was there to open the church for us, & thus our meeting space, until 9:30 — which was when we were supposed to be getting started! We’d invited folks to start arriving at 9:30 so they could get breakfast and settle in, but those who arrived at 9:30 got to help us set up (thank you!) or got to wander a bit around the bowels of First Congo, checking out what was new and fresh in progressive christianity. After the coffee pot wouldn’t work and the stovetop wouldn’t come on, finally we got things together (many thanks to the Mr. Fresh! who went out for a box of Peets!) and moved into some gentle and poweful work. Thanks to all who were there, and, too, to my amazing co-facilitator, Alex Cafarelli, who reminds me often how ok it can be to be in these bodies we carry around with us, even it it’s not ok sometimes. this morning I’m doing some stretching, some spinning, that gentle loving kindness movement that Alex offered to us, as though we deserve to love and be loved by and in our bodies. And we do.

These were two of the quotes I handed out on Saturday, with our guidelines & practices:

I write to understand as much as to be understood. Literature is an act of conscience. It is up to us to rebuild with memories, with ruins, and with moments of grace.
—Elie Wiesel

I love the body.  Flesh is so honest, and organs do not lie.
—Terri Guillemets

Organs do not lie. What does that mean? I appreciate the opportunity, the invitation, to consider. This quote reminded me, while we were doing our work on Saturday, of Nancy Mellon, who I had the chance to meet at the last Power of Words conference. Nancy writes and works with the idea of storytelling as a healing art, and wrote a book called Body Eloquence: The Power of Myth and Story to Awaken the Body’s Energies — she talks about the information our organs hold, our inside parts hold, and how we can access those stories and truths. She’s an amazing storyteller, had us all completely transfixed in the Haybarn there on the Goddard campus, as we waited to hear what the lungs could do, what the blood knows, what our small intestine can tell us.

What does it mean that all of our body can hold different parts of our stories, our lives, our histories, our truths? It’s scary to me, sometimes, this possibility — the fact that my organs (say, my liver, which I wrote about some this weekend) can hold some information about me feels outside my conscious control — and it is, at least in the way that my western logical ‘rational’ mind things about conscious control.

What does it mean that all of our body can hold different parts of our stories? It means that we are (still) whole — that our bodies know our truths, and that we can access those truths, through somatic work, through movement and dance, through art and creativity, through myriad right-brain activities, those ways of being and thinking that step gently and kindly around the rigid left brain that wants to think it has the exact right ways to know.

Thank you for your words, for the way you risk speaking without words, too, all the different ways you say, you listen, you witness and share.

Coming up! Body Empathy on Sat, November 13

(Please help us pass the word!)

First Congregational Church of Oakland

2501 Harrison St.

Oakland, CA

No previous experience necessary! Pre-registration required. Fee: $50-100, sliding scale (Please check in with us if funds are an issue—payment plans are always possible, and we may be able to work out trades or other arrangements as well!) Register here — or write to jennifer@writingourselveswhole.org with any questions!

What if we could truly experience empathy for our bodies as they are – and then, by extension, for ourselves, as we are?

As queer, genderqueer & trans survivors with a wide array of backgrounds and identities in a sexuality-/gender-restrictive culture, our self-protective tendency can be to “check out” by detaching mind from body to such great degrees that it can be dangerous. Physical activity and writing are two ways to check back in with your embodied self.

With deep respect for the privacy and variety in our personal experience of gender expression and our individual histories, this workshop will create safe space for participants to embrace our bodies as they are, and to write the stories our bodies have been wishing to speak, while allowing possibility for the integration of identity and physical presence. Using brief writing exercises and low impact body mindfulness exercises derived from improvisational theater, Zen meditation practice, and the internal Chinese martial arts, participants will have the opportunity to fully embody our gender complexity in a healing and playful environment.

The exercises we practice can be easily incorporated into our daily lives and can enhance our ability to reflect mindfully on our experiences, while interacting with others from a place of self-acceptance, internal power, and confidence, as we move through the world as the fabulously feisty queer & gender warriors we are…

Your facilitators:

Alex Cafarelli is a Jewish genderqueer femme trauma survivor with a background of 17 years of martial arts training. Currently teaching body mindfulness classes in Oakland, Alex also works as a gardener specializing in drought-tolerant and edible landscapes, does Reiki/massage bodywork, and develops and leads element-based rituals to support women, queers, transfolk, and genderqueers in moving through transitions and healing from trauma. Contact Alex at petals_and_thorns@yahoo.com.

Jen Cross is a queer incest survivor and a widely-anthologized writer who has facilitated survivors and sexuality writing workshops since 2002. She offers two weekly AWA-method workshops (Write Whole: Survivors Write and Declaring Our Erotic) in San Francisco. Find out more about Jen at
writingourselveswhole.org or write her at jennifer@writingourselveswhole.org.

Body Heat — March 2010 Tour Dates and Venues!

The tour hits the road in just a couple of weeks — and I’m so excited to get out there and connect with folks again!!

The heat the heat the heat!


The fourth installment of Body Heat: The Femme Porn Tour is set to hit the road March 12th, 2010 with the tour beginning in Boston, Massachusetts and ending in Vancouver, Canada. The line-up will feature Body Heat founder and spoken-word performer Kathleen Delaney (Atlanta, GA.), Sister Spit vet, former slam champion, filmmaker, and writer Meliza Bañales (San Francisco, CA), published author and sex-workshop facilitator Jen Cross (San Francisco, CA), Nationally renowned singer / performer Nicky Click (Durham, NH), Erotic writer and versatile performer Alex Cafarelli (San Francisco, CA.), and the always intoxicatingly sophisticated, old school class, grace and smoldering style of Vagina Jenkins (Atlanta, GA).

Armed with an arsenal of erotic song, dance, camp, poetry, smut, and prose Body Heat was hailed by the Center for Sex Positive Culture (Seattle, WA.) as “The best Femme porn writers in the country.” These ‘pull no punches,’ ‘it’s never too nasty,’ power femmes are touring to support and promote queer femmes and their contributions to erotica, the sex industry and the sex-positive movement. Thru the use of art and performance they are literally, visually, emotionally, psychologically and socially revealing a more complex sexual identity for queer femmes. You can check them out www.myspace.com/femmeporntour or write femmeswriteporn@yahoo.com.

March 13th – Boston, MA.
@ Lily Pad
1353 Cambridge Street
Cambridge, MA.
(special guest Gigi Frost of The Femme Show)

March 14th – NYC
@ Bluestockings
Bluestockings Radical Books
172 Allen Street
New York, NY 10002
(212) 777-6028
(special guest Gigi Frost & Diana Cage)

March 16th – Columbus, OH. – 1st night!!!!!!
1160 N. High
(special guests Viva Valezz & Missy Conley)
More info 614-564-7517
Email: skyecolumbus@sbcglobal.net

March 17th – Columbus, OH. – 2nd night!!!!!
sw corner 5th Ave. & High St.
More info 614-564-7517
Email: skyecolumbus@sbcglobal.net

March 18th – Milwaukee, WI.
@ The Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique
2427 N. Murray Ave.
Milwaukee, WI 53211
(414) 906-5304

March 19th – Minneapolis, MN.
@ Bedlam Theater
1501 S. 6th St
(in the West Bank neighborhood of Minneapolis)
special guests Pzychic Slutz

March 20th – Ann Arbor, MI.
@ Aut Bar
315 Braun Court
Ann Arbor, MI 48104
(734) 994-0558 – office
$15.00 ($13.00 in advance)
(special guest Cookie Tuff)

March 21st – Chicago, IL.
@ Center on Halsted
3656 North Halsted, Chicago, IL 60613-5974
t (773) 472-6469 x 441
3pm – 5:30pm (matinee show!!!!!)
(also featuring local performer DeDe Dylynn)

March 22nd – Omaha, NE.
@ Connections
1901 Leavenworth Street, Omaha, NE 68102-3126
(402) 933-3033
time & door $ subject to change
ShadyBoi Productions

Body Heat would like to thank The Lloyd E. Russell Foundation and Carol Queen and The Center for Sex & Culture for their ongoing funding and support.